Every death is important

SESSION 17   5/10/11

The night before this session I’d had another significant dream where I met an amused looking man dressed like a dandy in black and white clothes and holding a cane. He didn’t speak, just smiled knowingly at me, amused in a friendly way at my dis-ease with what I was experiencing.

I was also days away from facilitating a new workshop for support workers on ‘Working with the Bereaved’.

We set our intentions as per usual.

Kris: Is anybody there?


Kris: Who are we speaking to?


Kris: I’m feeling a lot better today, as I’m sure you’re aware. Another interesting dream last night. Were you in it, by any chance?


Kris: Who were you in the dream?

            MAN IN BLACK

Kris: …and white clothes?


Kris: Mmm, I thought so. I had a feeling that might be you. What did the black & white signify?


Kris: Black and white?


Kris: Yeh, I figured that. Or maybe I didn’t, maybe you and I figured it between us, Seth. What was the bowl of.. (the glass begins to move)



Worry is a habit

This piece is related to the earlier one about Anxiety.  Personally, I found keeping a Worry Diary really helpful.  Each specific worry thought was written down.  It gave a container for them all.  When you consider just how much there is in the world to worry about, it was a great way of reducing anxiety levels.  By placing these thoughts outside of my own mind they lost their power.  I was able to see how absurd my thinking had become – and just how much energy was being lost by worrying!

This is what Ortundra has to say about worry:

“Worry is a habit. Sometimes it is more than a habit, it is an addiction.  It is so familiar, so ingrained, so easy to do, that it is like an old friend that is always there.

It can be very helpful to ask oneself, how would my life look if I didn’t worry?  What on earth would I do instead of worrying?  What would there be for my mind to do, if I wasn’t worrying?  Now that can be a real worry!  So worry feeds upon worry, upon worry, upon worry.  It is like the cells in the body when they malfunction and become a tumour. You can carry worry tumours in your subtle bodies.

A very practical thing to do is to write down every single worry that you have.  You could have a worry book or folder, and collect them, like you would collect stamps.  You can look at them and say, “well, that is a really big worry and that is a really special worry and that is a worry I’ve had for a long, long time and look at that, that is a new worry.”